Parenting

I am standing in line waiting for an appointment for my son and I just began thinking about the type of parent I am. I think I'm a pretty fair one but I am always seeking to improve my skills as a parent. I am always asking myself, "How can I meet his needs better?"

Do you do that? Probably not. Most of us parent-types parent our children giving them what WE think they need. It may seem right and noble but sometimes we are to give our children what THEY need. As a child, I really needed affection. I don't think my family realized that. They gave me what they thought I needed; and I did need some of them. But there was a big gap in what provision I was given.

Mommies, I think it is important to listen to the souls of our children and provide them with what it's crying out.

Much love to you,
Aurellia

Tantrum-Free Toddlers

On the cover of one of my favorite parenting magazines was the caption for one of the articles, "Tantrum-Free Toddlers". I didn't even want to open the magazine to the page because there is just no such thing. There is no way in the world that a toddler can be tantrum free. It is ingrained in their DNA. There brains and their souls just do not work in sync together. Their souls desire something that their brains are not able to compute and process in the timely fashion they wish. So tantrum-free? I think not. So when I did read the article, it did reveal that there is in fact no totally tantrum-free toddler. The article focused on ways to "reduce" the tantrums in a child.

I am going to try these suggestions for one week and let you know how it goes.

Blessings to you and yours,
Aurellia

Just to Be Close to You...

I made the absolutely best and yet no brainer decision last week. I brought my son to the preschool I work at last week after deliberating for almost 6 months. I didn't want to take him out of his school because I thought it would be too much of a transition away from a routine he knew and people he had been familiar with for the past 2 years. However, I was totally wrong. There has been such a peace of mind for me and for him. He can see me during the day and there is not that constant need to be with Mommy when we get home because he has "been with" me all day. I completely underestimated a child's need to be with their parent. I thought that familiarity was more important than for him just to be close to me. I was completely wrong. Like one mom told me the other day at church, "Make life simple when dealing with children."

Peace and Blessings to you Mom-types,
Aurellia