Fear in Preschoolers

Hi Moms! It has been a crazy time. My son has been completely fearful and afraid of just about anything. He will not want to go to the bathroom alone; he will not want to sleep in his own bedroom; he will not want to sleep without a night light. Sounds normal for a 4-year-old, right? Well, I'm not so sure I'm ok with that rationale.

My son finds himself fearful of bugs that fly in the air, afraid of being alone and other things that are in his life. And I am not accepting that. I feel like if I play into this fear thing, he will be afraid of everything. He has a fear of new people and environments. He is afraid to be on stage and in the spotlight. Now I am not saying that he needs to be a movie star but his reason "being scared" is not an option.

So what have I been doing? Speaking to him from our belief system: God has not given us fear; God is with us; and other truths we believe. I have also told him that he is bigger than a bug, bigger than the dark.

Is it working? Umm... Kind of. It's a daily process but trust, I'm not giving this one up.

Blessings
Aurellia

Lessons learned while teaching

Good Morning Moms! This morning was a good morning with my little one. Why? Because I was reminded of a principle so simple that my own tough days can overshadow.

He was having a rough morning this morning as he did not want to get up and get dressed. He was sleepy yet he had to wake up. As I am struggling to get his clothes on, he resists telling me that it isn't morning time. I told him it was in fact morning time. He says, "No. I don't see the sun." I told him that he couldn't see the sun because we have not been outside yet. We will see the sun once we go outside. This kept him appeased for a while. He gets dressed, we get outside to head to school and he stops us both in our tracks. He gasped and said, "MOMMY! The sun isn't out. See, it's not morning time." I automatically told him that just because the sun isn't out doesn't mean it's not morning time. And then I explained nature more. He seemed to understand.

As soon as those words left my mouth and I finished my statement, I giggled. Sigh. That was a message of encouragement to me. And I hope it is to someone reading this. Just because the "sun" isn't shining in your life (the sun representing good things, positive things, happiness, joy) does not mean that it is not "morning" (morning representing newness, blessing, life, goodness).

We are told that night only lasts for a short time but morning in fact does come.

I learned a lesson while teaching my son about nature. Moments of treasure.

Blessings,
Aurellia

I am about to be in for the ride of my life...and learn how to play Football...

Hi Moms! With all this talk about NFL championship games, I have definitely caught the bug of professional athleticism. And why not? Afterall, I have a preschool boy who is in love with sports...and it wasn't anyone's doing. He just so happens to ask to watch basketball these days. He asked me if we could go to a game. And you know what I said in response? Of course, Yes! So I am planning to get my ducks in a row to take him to see our city's professional basketball team...floor seats. But you want to know what is also up my sleeve? Learn how to play these sports myself.

I have been thinking for the past few days that I need to learn how to play what I am calling "The Top 5" sports my son likes: Basketball, Football, Baseball, Soccer, Golf. I know, golf-a top 5 contender? Well, it is going to be. Not interested in tennis and not really into ice hockey. Even though he did enjoy himself on the ice skating rink...hmmm.

Well, moms (and dads) wish me luck. I am going to have to do my research and learn the rules and fundamentals of these sports and then find some "tutors" (if you will)...and get out there and play. I have to...for my son. I cannot rely on someone else to teach him these things, just like I cannot rely on the church to teach him about Spirituality or school to teach him how to read. I am his parent and it is my honor to be his first teacher...even if it means learning how to play sports at 30 years old. lol.

Blessings from one determined mom to you,
Aurellia

My Resolve to my Son

I am a mother. I am a mother to many but gave birth to only one. One little boy who I am becoming more and more fond of every day. We went ice skating last week for his first time and he had a blast. At first he was scared to go ice skating but then once he got on the ice, there was no stopping him. He did fall down a few times (photos at the bottom) but he just grabbed for me to help me back up and began skating again. It warmed my heart. For sure.

I am looking at the picture of us together from our church's fall festival and he in his Buzz Lightyear costume and me in my Peruvian maiden top...and we look quite happy together. And so I smile.

Truly, he is my angel. His existence has saved me so many times. And for this I am grateful to God for my child. I purpose in my heart to make sure that I am his biggest cheerleader. His greatest critic. His largest fan. And his parent. For the rest of our lives.

When you have children, your life changes. No longer (should it) be about your wants and needs only. It should be about what is the best for your lives. Not what is easiest for you but what would best benefit the emotional, spiritual, physical welfare of your child(ren). Doing what needs to be done...blood, sweat, AND tears.

In this new year, I resolve to be his greatest Mommy...

Blessings,
Aurellia