Ladies, I am having the most difficult time these nights with the lil one. For starters, he is not wanting to close eyes and sleep in the dark because he doesn't want to have bad dreams. He doesn't want to see the bear. I'm like, "What?! You've got to be kidding me!? When did all this begin, I asked myself. Well, regardless of how and when this started, the fact is that it is here and it is in full effect: He is afraid of the dark.
Bedtime has become a full on War and I then go into a Woe is Me mode the next morning when I am exhausted from getting to bed late. I am not at all trying to hear that this is normal. Normal? Not normal for me. I wasn't afraid of the dark. (Before you get upset with me, remember, I am the mom who has a hard time accepting the fact that my child is not me.)
So you know what his remedy for the situation? Me sleep with him. And you know, even though I say no, he finds his way in my bed. And then I wake up at the edge of the bed with arm cramps and muscle tension. Goodness! I have to find a way through this. I have to get some sleep. I think I am so concerned with what the Psychologists and Child Development and Jo from SuperNanny have to say about kids not sleeping in bed with Mom, I am being sleep deprived. I actually got a pass from a Doc I know who actually went through something similar with his son. He said something so practical: What harm is it to provide safety and nurture to your preschooler?
So for now, I think I'm going to side with sleep and have good Bedtime Memories than Bedtime Woes.
Sleeptight Moms,
Aurellia
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- Aurellia Anderson is a passionate woman about God. She enjoys inspiring and encouraging others to live their life on purpose (even when her own life needs a pick-me-up). She is a hospital Chaplain, licensed minister with the Evangelical Covenant Church, and the President of her own company, Hidden Gem (www.HiddenGemCo.com). A mother, entrepreneur, ChurchChick(TM) , and just your average ray of sunshine-Welcome to the Personal Blog of Aurellia Anderson.
Thursday, September 29, 2011
Thursday, September 1, 2011
Soccer
Hi Mommies. Today is Thursday. This means that it is Soccer Practice. I wish I could say that I was more excited than I am but I have to be completely honest: I am not excited one bit. Why am I not excited to participate in the fun of my preschooler playing in his first sport? Because he DOESN'T. He just stands there on the field sulking. I am completely drained by the end of the practice from all of my anxiety.
I know, I am putting way too much on it. But really, I have all sorts of feelings running through my body. First off, I am thinking that he is miserable and I have him out there participating in something that I want him to do. But then I remind myself that HE wanted to play soccer. Second, I am feeling sad because I notice that all of the other 4 and 5-year-olds seem to know everyone and he doesn't know a single kid. Then I realize that he doesn't have my exuberant personality when it comes to being social and have to come to terms with that. Third, I am upset because after my long day of very emotionally draining work and a hot commute ride home, I am sitting outside for another hour watching my son stand or walk during SOCCER (the game where everyone runs most of the time!
I know you want to take me and probably shake me a little and tell me to get a grip. I know. I am overreacting but I just don't understand. He wanted to play and he stands there. He says it is because I am there watching him. Oh give me a break. He says it is because Coach told him that one person will run and the other person will walk. Oh come on. Really? LOL.
And then after I am done projecting my expectations of enjoyment and fulfillment on him, I am quiet within to realize that he IS 4 years old and this IS a new "thing" and environment for him. He is NOT me. He has rhythm all his own and I have to allow him to flourish and blossom on his own at his own pace. Now, if this same scenario happens next year, there will be NO MORE SOCCER!
Blessings,
Aurellia
I know, I am putting way too much on it. But really, I have all sorts of feelings running through my body. First off, I am thinking that he is miserable and I have him out there participating in something that I want him to do. But then I remind myself that HE wanted to play soccer. Second, I am feeling sad because I notice that all of the other 4 and 5-year-olds seem to know everyone and he doesn't know a single kid. Then I realize that he doesn't have my exuberant personality when it comes to being social and have to come to terms with that. Third, I am upset because after my long day of very emotionally draining work and a hot commute ride home, I am sitting outside for another hour watching my son stand or walk during SOCCER (the game where everyone runs most of the time!
I know you want to take me and probably shake me a little and tell me to get a grip. I know. I am overreacting but I just don't understand. He wanted to play and he stands there. He says it is because I am there watching him. Oh give me a break. He says it is because Coach told him that one person will run and the other person will walk. Oh come on. Really? LOL.
And then after I am done projecting my expectations of enjoyment and fulfillment on him, I am quiet within to realize that he IS 4 years old and this IS a new "thing" and environment for him. He is NOT me. He has rhythm all his own and I have to allow him to flourish and blossom on his own at his own pace. Now, if this same scenario happens next year, there will be NO MORE SOCCER!
Blessings,
Aurellia
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