Good Evening Moms and Mom-Types. I must say that this blog entry is being written with frustration and tears. I am having a hard time putting my son to sleep because he has been unintentionally trained to only go to sleep with me by his side. How and why did this training come about? I listened to someone else instead of my MommyTuition. You know, MommyTuition. That intuitive instinct us Moms and Mom-Types get when we just know something of a hunch. All moms have it and need to use it.
When my son was a little youngster, I had a family member tell me that I needed to let my son sleep in bed with me because he needs to bond with me. This relative was older and so I felt compelled to listen to her. Unbeknownst to me at the time that this little effort to comfort him would create in him a dependence on me to sleep. I should've listened to what my Intuition as a mother was telling me: Don't do it.
As a newborn he didn't sleep in bed with his parents. As a toddler he didn't sleep with his parents. Because I work outside of the home and have a hectic schedule as a working mother, our time together IS limited and so I understood her point. BUT at the end of the day, I am his mother and I needed to have trusted what I was hearing about my own child.
As a young in age mother I felt insecure of my parenting because of just that, my age. I believed (and still do at times) that because I am a young in age mother (even though I have years of parenting experience as a result of being a stepmother), everyone else knows better than me. Truth is, we moms and mom-types have to trust the voice inside. As mother's we have to trust what he are hearing and feeling within us about our children. Especially us "young in age" mothers.
I'm not saying defy the wisdom of those who've been there and done that. I'm just saying trust yourself and the spirit of mothering and parenting in you.
Blessings.
Aurellia
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